Youngsters and some singles may not find my story appealing but it gave and constantly giving me real happiness until now.
I met my boyfriend through an MBA classmate. We started exchanging messages. At the start, I did not have a single hint that we could be in a relationship because he was not the type of person I was looking for. He is kind of serious. My definition of relationship back then was that I don't like being asked of corny questions such as:
- Are you up?
- Are you in the office?
- Have you gotten your meals already?
- What are you doing?
- Are you home?
- How was your day?
- etc...
It totally pissed me off! I asked my classmate why she introduced me to someone like an alarm clock. She just laughed at me. We dated - YES - just plain talk. Our topics were all events of our past relationships and some i termed it "pogi points para ibigin". Case in point, it irritated me most about his constant referring to the Bible and his experiences in the church community. On how the church saved him despite growing up without parents while having a terrible childhood. On how the church has inspired him to hear mass regularly and how he's constantly inspired by the life experiences of the parishioners attending the mass. How the hell he got to know and inspired by the experiences of the church-goers? What religion is he in? My 101% bet, he is not a Roman Catholic person. He may be in another Christian denomination. His name is Christian by the way.
I find my self always rolling my eyes off. I wanted to cover my ears but I did not want to insult him too. So I endured a suffering of a grandfather-granddaughter story-telling sessions every time we met. Yes, endured and suffering were the terms. Can you imagine how I was annoyed and disinterested? Quite a strategy it was for me.
But his consistency made me realize how true this person is. He possessed wisdom far better than the knowledge my 13 years profession gave me. I realized how limited is my life. His stands were far better than my reasons and rationales. I later find myself listening to him and asked myself a question - Is it time to change my views of life?
After series of meet-ups, one day, we met at a mall for a concert date. He handed me a jewelry box with a royal blue colored rosary bracelet in it. I was surprised! His consistency did not show any trace of "for-the-show" anymore. He's a fine, genuine man.
From then on, we enjoyed our company together. It brought me back to the days when my parents were still alive and I was very active in church activities. It gave me back a portion of my life. He's religious than I am. He cared for me a lot than I am to him. In this case, I will be treated like a baby and a lady as well.
Wait, are you asking me if we are on? My answer is Yes, after a mass at Palm Sunday of 2014.
Few months later, he asked my hands for marriage. He did not gave me an engagement ring but courageous enough to face my family with his 15-man entourage for the "pamanhikan" - an old and respectful way of asking hands for marriage. That was two days. My family of course cannot say no. As it was revealed that the relationship is centered by God. And all they wished for me is happiness. The marriage date was set and everyone got very excited to the fulfillment of the sacrament.
To all singles and teenagers out there, choose a Christian boy. Or if you are already, invite your girlfriend or boyfriend to become one. Because a relationship could hardly go wrong if its founded by the love of Christ. Choose a man who will love you first than you being so in love yet ignored and hurt. Choose a man who will open a bible and sings church songs. Choose to be happy.
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| photo credits to Joy Real of www.joyrealphotography.com for our fun-filled pre-nupt photoshoot and Team Forever for the classic concepts and coordination.
This blog is a journey. I am not expecting a fairy tale life. But I know that every step of the way, we are assured of a life inspired by the love of Christ.
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